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If someone close to you, such as a family member, friend, co-worker, or neighbour, has or has had a drinking problem, Al-Anon may help.

To help you decide if Al-Anon could help you, we offer three simple self-assessment quizzes

The questions in these quizzes are not meant to judge anyone or to assign labels to important people in our lives. The purpose of the questions is simply to help decide whether Al-Anon or Alateen might be able to help.

For adults who have been affected by someone else’s alcoholism - Take a quiz

Has Your Life Been Affected by Someone Else’s Drinking?

The following questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon:

Do you worry about how much someone drinks?
Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
Do you feel that if the drinker cared about you, they would stop drinking to please you?
Do you blame the drinker’s behaviour on their companions?
Are plans frequently upset or cancelled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behaviour?
Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
Do you search for hidden alcohol?
Do you ever ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
Do you feel like a failure because you can’t control the drinking?
Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

If you have answered “Yes” to any of these questions, Al-Anon may help you.

For adults who grew up with and affected by someone else’s alcoholism - Take a quiz

Did You Grow Up With a Problem Drinker?

If someone close to you, such as a family member, friend, co-worker, or neighbour, has or has had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you determine if Al‑Anon is for you:

Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
Do you fail to recognise your accomplishments?
Do you fear criticism?
Do you overextend yourself?
Have you had problems with your own compulsive behaviour?
Do you have a need for perfection?
Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
Do you feel more alive in the midst of crisis?
Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
Do you isolate yourself from other people?
Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and/or abusive?
Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
Do you often mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?
Alcoholism is a family disease. Those of us who have lived with this disease as children sometimes have problems which the Al‑Anon program can help us to resolve.

If you have answered “Yes” to any of these questions, Al-Anon may help you.

For teens who have been affected by someone else’s alcoholism - Take a quiz

Has Your Life Been Affected By Someone Else’s Drinking?

Alateen is for young people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. Sometimes the active drinking has stopped, or the active drinker may not live with us anymore. Even though the alcohol may be gone, and the alcoholic gone or recovering in A.A., we are still affected. Many of us have received help from Alateen or Al-Anon. The following questions are to help you decide whether or not Alateen is for you.

Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don’t care?
Do you feel neglected, uncared for, or unloved?
Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking or what’s happening in your home?
Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?

If you have answered “Yes” to any of these questions, Alateen may help you.

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