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The Family Disease
by Betty Reddy

For family members, alcoholism causes a progressive inability to predict their own behaviour because of the growing pre-occupation with and reaction to another person's drinking. Generally speaking, if a person wonders whether alcoholism is the problem, it probably is.

Family members need to hear that the emotions they feel are a normal reaction to alcoholism.

Frequently, they experience a free-floating but persistent fear. They are afraid of the alcoholic's reactions and are prepared to settle for "peace at any price".

They worry about bills, accidents and job losses (the alcoholic's and, in some cases, their own).

As they attempt to deal with the unpredictable irrational behaviour of the drinker, they become confused and increasingly guilty and pre-occupied. As their lives become compulsively centered on trying to get the alcoholic to stop drinking through unsuccessful attempts to manipulate and control, most of their actions only enable the alcoholic to continue the drinking. Family members are caught in a cycle of repetitive non-helpful behaviour that leaves them frustrated, angry and alone. They feel helpless and hopeless.

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